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January 30th, 2008 · 1 Comment

We’ve been in the throes of Choosing a Kindergarten for Adam and Becky for… well, it seems like about a hundred years now. Dan, ever the provider of perspective, pointed out that this is not a lifetime decision, that we can make changes down the road if we need to, and that no college (much less any employer) cares where anyone starts elementary school. This only helped me be a little bit less spazzy about the whole thing, and it didn’t stop me from visiting three different schools and filling out eleventy-four thousand forms. Without the benefit of that perspective, there would have been at least two more schools on the list.

I really wanted to look at the experience of others in my family when making this decision. Like my mother… who sent all of us to Catholic school as a default and put my #4 brother and me into public school when we couldn’t really afford tuition any more. (Fantastic results for me, BTW.) “Default” is not how I want to make this choice. Moving on to my sister, whose children go to Catholic school (the same school we attended as kids, incidentally) because the public schools where she lives are… hmmm… let’s say “questionable” in quality. That’s not a problem here; our local public schools are reasonably good and reasonably safe. Dan’s parents picked a house based on the walking-distance public elementary school he’d attend. They didn’t have to think about it so much after they moved in. And that’s pretty much the experience that I can draw on. So I kept freaking out. The really fortunate aspect of the problem is that ANY option would be better than adequate, but that does make it hard to differentiate.

Last night we went to an open house at the Catholic school on our list. We felt warmly welcomed, and we really got a sense that the staff of this school want to help us grow our kids into good people. Dan took away a sense of core values that he doesn’t disagree with (leaving aside the fact that he disagrees with every fundamental premise of Catholicism), and he felt that he would be welcomed into the community, welcomed to leadership and role modeling rather than being marginalized because of his beliefs. I took away the much-vaunted feeling of peace that is always my signal to stop thinking about it because I’ve found the Right Answer. I’m a little surprised at what the answer turns out to be — but then in some ways I’m not surprised at all. It feels like signing on to be part of something bigger than me. I love that. I have felt it before, and I Love It.

There are some details of finance to work out, of course. But I’m planning to go back to work in September, and even if I can’t find the perfect PT job in my field (I need it to be part-time so I can finish school sometime this century), Dan pointed out that I need to clear less than $4 an hour to cover tuition. Always, always with the perspective, that one. So even if I don’t find a library job for next fall, I could go back to the Ann Taylor* or the fabric store or something and work retail for a year if I absolutely had to.

That’s where my head has been for the last couple of weeks. Now that I have some free brain space, I’m going to finish the paperwork to renew my teaching license so I can go get that perfect job.

*I know I didn’t blog this, though I found it immensely entertaining. Last December I needed a jacket to go with a little black dress — something dressy and elegant, but not flashy. The dress is georgette and fluttery and really not at all appropriate for winter, but I thought a little bolero-style something would get me through. So Dan and I walked into the Ann Taylor store, where I explained all my complicated needs to the saleswoman, who offered me a job right there. And then she found me a perfect black silk sweater with a single beaded button and three-quarter sleeves. The moral of the story: Know thy textiles, for they shall lead thee to whopping employee discounts.

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